It gives me great pleasure to let you know that you already have some tools to disrupt, divert and be difficult. They are NO, MOVE and Change direction!
Here are some big ideas for you to think about.
NO! You are only difficult for people who want you to be a walk in the park. My favorite thing to do when I’m not sure about someone is to say no and make myself physically unavailable.
MOVE! The best way to disrupt is to shake, rattle and roll. Even water that doesn’t move is toxic.
CHANGE DIRECTION! Going the same way will and can only give you the same experiences. Having the same 5 friends only gives you the same 5 different perspectives to bounce off of.
Maybe you’ll hear it better from the USA’s 44th President, Barack Obama.
By now you have read my personal why. The long boring read that tries to seem interesting, sort of and kind of introduces me. That was to share my why and if you didn’t catch it before my name is Nonkululeko Judy Dlamini but please only call me Judy.
Everything has a why. A bowl’s why is to accommodate food, a spoon’s why is to transport it from bowl to bowl or bowl to mouth and my why is to honor 5 year old me. Why 5 year old me? Long stories that we have plenty more posts to get into.
What are we doing?
Today we are going to look at YHTDTW’s why. If you haven’t figured it out by now YHTDTW is a call to action brand that encourages self-responsibility, confidence, living and loving your best life.
So like most good reads let’s break it down into the 5 W’s and a H.
Who?
Each and every single one of us.
What?
Doing the work.
Where?
Everywhere necessary.
Inspiration and guidance from www.yhtdtw.com and other great websites that I don’t get paid to promote.
When?
When you feel stuck and nothing seems to be working. Every time you feel out of place, lost, confused and especially when you feel like you aren’t moving forward even though you are running at 100 km per hour.
How?
Acknowledging, accepting and honoring.
Why?
Because stunting.
Stunting? Isn’t that what happens to children?
Yes stunting and according the World Health Organization (WHO) stunting is impaired growth and development that ‘children’ experience from poor nutrition, repeated infection and inadequate psycho-social stimulation. The WHO also acknowledges that although stunting can not be cured, it can be prevented and not only through nutritional efforts.
Stunting affects how we see ourselves moving forward based on our past experiences. The stunting I am talking about is what I like to call experience stunting. Experience stunting is when you experience a situation and because it is nothing you have ever experienced before you are either in awe by its beauty or you are pained by it’s shock value.
Whether you see it as beautiful or painful you decide to unpack your whole life and move in and you don’t seem to move past your eviction notice. Did you know that experience stunting affects us all because we are unable to predict our next experience even if we try and manipulate it to suit us.
If we see the situation as beautiful we welcome more experiences that remind us of our first encounter of beautiful and if we see this situation as painful we will prefer to dread and avoid it. What’s constant about both perceptions of experience is that we don’t seem to grow past these experiences we just learn to cope past them or relive them over and over again.
This is why
This is why I call it ‘YHTDTW’ because You Have To Do The Work.
You have to do the work to recognize that you have stunted.
YHTDTW to decide to move past it or not.
You have to do the work to live with what ever decision you have made and take responsibility to grow past your stunting moments.
YHTDTW to maintain an unshakeable confidence about yourself because trusting yourself is your first step.
You have to do the work to live and love your best life.
