Bethany Zelent (2018) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxJ9hAruVZs spoke about the questions that take place when childhood trauma occurs. Two of those questions were;
What did I do to cause this?
How can I make this stop?
I’m going to use up my confidence in an instance to say that it’s not only children who ask these questions. Grown adults who pay bills and live their best lives ask these very same questions. Except the adult version is more like;
What’s going on now?
How can I live my best life?
The ultimate escape room
As adults we just want to move past things as quickly and swiftly as possible because “Ain’t nobody got time for that” Kimberly “Sweet Brown” Wilkins (8 April 2012). So our first question is to find out what’s going on and possibly who to project this to and shift blame on. Thereafter we want to develop amnesia and continue to live our best life that is filled with escapism extremes.
Basically life as an adult is an escape room not realizing that our best life is also in the uncomfortable, challenging and on the other side of fear. Which means that we have to go through that fear to get to exciting. Yes the chemical release in our bodies is the same whether we are experiencing fear or excitement. How’s this link for a reference. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-huckabeejennings/shift-fear-to-excitement_b_10488700.html
Growth and protection
Remember Bethany? Fine read up then! She also said that when trauma happens it emotionally stunts you at that age and that you are in and all at once we go from growth to protection. So instead of growing in every way possible even though it may possibly hurt we try and we prevent ourselves from feeling the pain so we protect ourselves. And I know she wasn’t talking about that durex or trojan protection, so don’t loose that.
You guys the pain that we are trying to protect ourselves from is actually GROWTH!
Stop running
So how can we experience this growth, flourish and live our best lives?
Stop running! Put your running shoes up and get your feet wet. The next time it feels uncomfortable, tight, heartbeat chasing and damn near excruciating, I want us to try something different let’s stay and find out what we will become after this growth has taken place.
