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Bethany Zelent (2018) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LxJ9hAruVZs spoke about the questions that take place when childhood trauma occurs. Two of those questions were;

What did I do to cause this?

How can I make this stop?

I’m going to use up my confidence in an instance to say that it’s not only children who ask these questions. Grown adults who pay bills and live their best lives ask these very same questions. Except the adult version is more like;

What’s going on now?

How can I live my best life?

The ultimate escape room

As adults we just want to move past things as quickly and swiftly as possible because “Ain’t nobody got time for that” Kimberly “Sweet Brown” Wilkins (8 April 2012). So our first question is to find out what’s going on and possibly who to project this to and shift blame on. Thereafter we want to develop amnesia and continue to live our best life that is filled with escapism extremes.

Basically life as an adult is an escape room not realizing that our best life is also in the uncomfortable, challenging and on the other side of fear. Which means that we have to go through that fear to get to exciting. Yes the chemical release in our bodies is the same whether we are experiencing fear or excitement. How’s this link for a reference. https://www.huffingtonpost.com/laura-huckabeejennings/shift-fear-to-excitement_b_10488700.html

Growth and protection

Remember Bethany? Fine read up then! She also said that when trauma happens it emotionally stunts you at that age and that you are in and all at once we go from growth to protection. So instead of growing in every way possible even though it may possibly hurt we try and we prevent ourselves from feeling the pain so we protect ourselves. And I know she wasn’t talking about that durex or trojan protection, so don’t loose that.

You guys the pain that we are trying to protect ourselves from is actually GROWTH!

Stop running

So how can we experience this growth, flourish and live our best lives?

Stop running! Put your running shoes up and get your feet wet. The next time it feels uncomfortable, tight, heartbeat chasing and damn near excruciating, I want us to try something different let’s stay and find out what we will become after this growth has taken place.

It’s time to live the only best life that you have and then #BOOM something happens and it rocks your boat. Like it was all smooth sailing until that phone call came in and put a spanner in your wheels. Come to think of it you were doing just fine for 300 and 25 days of the year until that oopsie rearranged 40 days of ‘this is my year’ and you were never the same for the rest of the year. Legend has it that you were never the same for the rest of your life.

The Settler

How can one little ‘excuse me’ change you so drastically? I’ll try not to rub in the salt now but it’s because you didn’t grow through that one incident. You just couldn’t learn, grow and move on with your life. Oh no, you just had to excel! Claimed that as your only reality, moved in and even had the nerve to call in the plumbers so they could pipe up your brand new life perspective. You put up your curtains of avoidance and invited everyone to the house warming that never seemed to come to an end and we have all been “privileged” to hear at least 7 different versions of the same, sad script and occasionally with a different cast. I mean “lucky us!” What a blessing it is to be bored to nocturnal, catnapping heaven.

What’s it going to be?

What is it actually going to be? You or the situation? Unfortunately it can’t be both or at least not at the same time. Are you going to choose a temporary situation that happened in an effort to open you up to more of you? Or are you going to choose you by putting in the work, being real with yourself and actually growing through things.

Now WORK!

You made it this far? Pat yourself on the back and congratulations to working your growth out! This commitment is to move away from protection and be in growths face on some; “You were saying?” And for that we would like to tip you with a simple Work-Out, just to ease you in!

Time to WORK it OUT!

Now what? You’ve said no to stunting and yes to growing. You understand and receive that you have just been protecting yourself from moving on, past and around stunting. And here you are with your bodacious self actually wanting to apply the work?

I don’t know whose baby this is but oh what a mood.

Miss us as we WORK!

You can use these as affirmations, decorations to your life and or maybe actually use them as prompts to get you moving but it’s all up to you.

That is our Work- Out to you and Happy doing the work!

And you are very welcome!

You deserve to be complicated and magnificent at the same time. Give yourself a chance and leave stunting to the films.

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Grow in all ways.